
Addiction: Alcohol

Addictions: Cigarettes

Addiction: Shopping

The first three faces I believe everyone probably knows. Kurt Cobain, Courtney Love, and Anna Nicole Smith. Two out of three of these addicts are dead. Did addiction send them to their graves? Perhaps. We see people who are addicts crucified in the tabloids. We can't wait to see who's on meth this week, or who's drank themselves into a stupor at a random club, but how often to we look around at the addicts that are in our lives every day?
Addiction is a terrible thing, and more than half of Americans suffer from one form of addiction or another. That means, that chances are good, if you're reading this, you either a: are an addict, or b: you know an addict. Some addictions are more harmful than others. For instance, someone who's addicted to washing their hands every 5 minutes, is probably not going to end up in as bad of shape as someone who is having to smoke meth every 5 minutes. Does it mean that their addiction is any less of an affliction to them? Absolutely not.
I am an addict. I'm addicted to shopping. You can laugh if you'd like, honestly, I get that a lot. Unfortunately, it's true. I've bankrupted not one, but two people due to my addiction. I can't stop. I can't have credit cards. If I have them, I will max them out. There's no high in this world like buying something. Having a new purse, new shoes, new makeup-- new anything, there's nothing like it for me. I'm on a high I can't explain when I shop. Afterwards, I feel guilty, knowing I shouldn't have spent the money, and that I didn't need what I bought.
I cleaned out my closet last weekend. My closet is LITERALLY an entire bedroom. I took out 3 huge garbage bags of purses, and 3 huge garbage bags of clothes to donate. Most of which, I've never carried and/or worn. I still have 4 huge racks of clothes left, and more purses than I can count. No human should have that much stuff, but I do. I do, because I wasn't strong enough to stop myself.
It took me a long time to come to the realization that I'm an addict. Many people never realize that their addicts. My husband is an addict. He's addicted to chat rooms. If I didn't keep a program on my computer, spector software, he'd probably be chatting today. Not because he doesn't love me. Not because he's looking for someone else, but because it's a high. There's a high he gets from chatting-- the same high I get from shopping-- the same high an alcoholic gets from that first drop of alcohol hitting their tongue, the same high a drug addict gets when the drug runs through their veins. It's a high. We all chase that high. We want something to take us away from whatever reality it is we're living in. Whatever it is we're trying to escape, we use our addiction to fuel that escape.
Until one day, we realize, we're tired of living this way. We're tired of hurting others, and tired of hurting ourselves. Many fail their first time at trying to beat their addictions. Many are still failing. Many will never seek help. Many will always be recovering, and are just one step away from a fall. I am recovering. I know if given the opportunity, I would fall. I'm not yet strong enough to make responsible decisions with credit, and shopping. I'm getting better, but I've got a long way to go.
I'm not telling you to go out and cry for every person you see who's suffering from an addiction. All I'm asking, is that you keep an open mind to these people, and why they're addicts in the first place. No one wakes up saying, "I want to be an addict," and unfortunately, by the time you realize you're an addict, it's almost too late.
These are the faces of addiction. The faces of the famous, and the faces of the common, every day people. Addiction can happen to anyone, but there is help. There's always hope. Never forget that.
Below, I've listed several websites of useful organizations to help addicts and the loved ones of addicts. There is help, all you have to do is take the first step.
Alcoholics Anonymous
Narcotics Anonymous
Overeaters Anonymous
Shopaholics Anonymous
Sex Addicts Anonymous
Gamblers Anonymous
Internet/Chat Addiction




12 comments:
I think everyone suffers from one type of addiction or another~ although so many of us don't choose to accept it.
Thank you for such a thought provoking post. Thank you.
I am a grocery shoping addict. I kid you not. I overbuy groceries like crazy..I shop for all the food deals. So much ends up getting thrown out and I dont feel; guilty till it does. Then I say I am not going to buy so mucha nd I end up doing it anyway. I am getting better with it but it gets really bad when I am stressed still. I think it comes from growing up with 6 brothers and sisters and always running out of food. I never wanted that to happen to my family....my pantry looks like I am feeding that many but there's only 3 here......That was an awsome post!
I'm with you on the clothes shopping, but my addiction extends to make up and hair care products.
Friends have asked me over the years why I didn't go into cosmotology...
I am surprised about your not seeing any pics of me...I have posted several on the blog over the last year. Send me your email (it's not on your blog) and I'll send ya a few.....
i took my comment off, there are those who snoop onto all the places i blog, and i don't want any trouble with them, if you didn't get a chance to read it, let me know and i'll email you
i need to march my fat ass over to overeaters anon site!
when my jaw was broken and wired shut, that cured my addiction...too bad it was painful.
you didnt throw out any Louis purses did you?
I have several addictions that I battle constantly. In a way, having others helps a lot, because their addictions I can control.
I am a definite shopping addict with VERY bad consequences. And I am also addicted to my boyfriend (ex-boyfriend) I hate to admit but I have been living through him and now that I know I have to stop... I can't.
This is a very thought-provoking post. Thank you for sharing your story and for offering it for the welfare of others. God bless you and your husband as you struggle.
Ah, you’ve managed to post a few of my addictions on here as well. I think it’s human nature that once we like something, we want to continue with it – regardless of what it is. The internet is very addicting. There are ‘innocent’ things that are very addicting. But is it innocent once it becomes an addiction? I remember my friend gave me the Sims 2 game. I HATE video games and this game, I swear, I was totally addicted to it. I heard the song in my dreams, I woke up to log on to see what my Sims was doing – I mean anything can become an addiction if you let it. But we’re weak as human beings so we have to give ourselves a little slack. If we aren’t hurting anyone else and not hurting ourselves, then I don’t think it’s that bad.
Depends. What about hobbies? If someone plays guitar every day or paints every day, does that mean that they’re addicted to it? It’s so bizarre.
Great post!
Excellent post my Friend. Very wise. You are very talented with the written word and getting your views across.
I'm sorry to hear that you have been laughed at when admitting your addiction. It takes immense courage to admit an addiction and I am super proud of you for acknowledging it AND continuing to work on it. That is GREAT news! :)
It sounds like you and your husband have a great support system for each other. That's fantastic!
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