Those of you who have come to know me, know I'm not right. Nope, not one bit. My job has been nothing but hectic. The plethora of idiots that call me on a daily basis never ceases to amaze me, although, it's getting better. Ok, that's it for my rant.
Now, onto the insanity. For those of you who know me, you know I love to flirt. I flirt with anyone and everyone. I love making people feel good about themselves, and feel good in general. Is there a point where you can take it too far? Or are there people who just don't understand flirting to begin with?
For example, there is a certain gentleman, who shall remain nameless, that is extremely nervous around me. He's in his 40's, and married as well. He rarely speaks, and won't look me in the eye, unless he's "not close" to me, or if I'm speaking directly to him. Although, if he's walking by, and I see him, he's looking right at me. He just seems very nervous/uncomfortable around me, and I'm not sure why? Granted, I find this man EXTREMELY attractive, but I would NEVER do anything about this. I don't want to make him feel uncomfortable, and am not really sure if I am or not? I've never run into this type of problem before? Any thoughts or opinions on this situation would be most appreciated!
Thursday, November 16, 2006
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Well it would depend on his age. Sometimes younger guys are shy and won't look you in the eye.
On another note..when a guy likes you they have a tendency to look everywhere and anywhere to avoid making eye contact. If he is nervous around you it's because he likes you, it's sweet.
The only thing you can do is do what you are already doing. If you ask him about it he may avoid you altogether or be embarassed. Guys are usually drawn to out-going women and you are just that. As long as he knows you are married and then what more can you do?
Just smile and remember you still got it lol
trust me, there are plenty of people out there, men and women, who don't know where the line is, and may take it wrong. if you sense some discomfort i would definetely pull back and just be "friendly". if he gets the wrong idea, especially with him being a co-worker, things could get really strange.
Hello miss1999-
Thank you for making your way into my blog today.
Flirting is fun and can be as equally dangerous. Especially flirting with a married man. If he is looking for an excuse, he may think he has one in you.
Another reason he may be making the lack of eye contact is because he is trying to draw you into him to find out why... Bingo, you noticed and now he thinks you have entered into a more intimate 'relationship' with him.
Sometimes really friendly, outgoing women just make men nervous! I wouldn't worry about it so much, unless you really feel like he's interested in you and then . .. steer clear, since he's married!
But if it's all innocent, just be confident in yourself, keep being friendly, and don't worry about it!
I tend to shy away from people who cant look me in the eye. Maybe you intimadate him. If I was you..I would just ignore him for while. lol...did I spell intimadate right? lol. I hate mispelling. It just doesnt look right to me.
Just be careful - some folks don't understand the line between flirting and being serious. And you are such a vibrant personality that you may really seem intimidating and appealling to him at the same time!
All very good advice above...
I tend to look people in the eye regardless of who they are. I will say this though, if I get the sense that a girl is being more forward than I am comfortable with, I tend not to prolong eye contact.
Cinderella makes a very accurate observation about where guys tend to look - all around - and that seems to be a more... high school approach, but an introverted adult may exhibit some of the same characteristics.
YEah.. Smile and keep on being yourself.. He will probably stop being shy after he gets used to you..
My boyfriend says the phrase "You are not right!" all the time. But he says it while laughing and loving it. Normal people scare me.
-N
Sometimes guys can't handle a woman that is so comfortable with herself....maybe he's used to timid women...and when he sees you.....beautiful, confident, not afraid to speak her mind.....you make him nervous. Maybe he's afraid that you will take it further than flirting. I dunno....either way don't take it personally...it's him. :)
My brother in law,of all people is like that and I don't even flirt with him,OY.
I find it annoying.
He's known me for 15 years,you'd think he'd get over whatever it is,that makes him act like an idgit around me.
Like am I scary?? Whoknows...
I'm thinking this fellow feels something more than harmless flirting towards you and that's why he acts so weird.
here's one for you to tell him...look geezer i flirt with everyone..don't take it personally....lol....
or you can say...hey geezer oh nevermind that was ugly...
Flirting when you're attached is a huuuuuuuge grey area! I flirt like a demon when I'm single, but I try and hold back when I'm attached just because I wouldn't want a bf going flirt-crazy. Now some people that are attached feel uncomfy with the flirtation...and he may think that you want to start something up. Just be friendly and treat him as you do everyone else....so that he sees that you're not trying to jump him, but are rather being your friendly self!
maybe he is just shy around beautiful women.....?
then, you know me........suspicious of EVERYONE.
maybe he is 'weird'. Like Ted Bundy weird!
he obviously finds you attractive and appealing and it bothers him deeply because he is married....
please please please stay away from him, for your sake, for his sake and most of all for his wife's sake
I would say it's probably just his own thing. I wouldn't take it personally. I would just continue to say hi and such, but don't flirt or do anything extra that might bother him.
I am also a Southerner and have the tendency to flirt. Sometimes that throws a guy so off balance he doesn't know how to handle it. I usually smile and just talk my way through it-but if the person is too uncomfortable and remains that way...I just move on and speak with the next person. Of course, the door will always remain open, but I don't want someone uncomfortable with me.
Flirt...what is this you speak of ..this is how I communicate with all women....lol....I never do more than flirt.....bad habits died hard
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