Ok, as you all know, I've been trashy lately. I admit it. It's just me. I felt kinda bad after my last post- no, not for lusting and flirting, but for referring to these men as if they were pons, and that I would "use" them. I would never use anyone, I don't know what the hell is wrong with me. PC is such an awesome person. He's got the best personality, and most beautiful smile. If I weren't a married woman and he wasn't a married man, I'd be after him in a heartbeat. Who am I kidding, I'd already be dating him. He's the ideal man, but alas, we're both married- and not to each other.
Then you have TM. That man ROCKS MY WORLD! He's SO smooth, and sexy. He drives a kick ass car, and has it going on in EVERY aspect. He's slightly cocky, as to where PC is not. Once again, TM is married as well, although, I suspect he's not exactly faithful. Everyone at work knows I think he's fine as hell, but they all know I would never do anything other than flirt with him. Like my best friend, and fellow Monger says, "If you're on a diet, it's ok to look at the menu"- and look at the menu I am!
These men truly are good people, especially PC, I would never want anyone to think I'd ever use him, or TM, even if they do make me feel really good about myself.
For those of you who are wondering- I'm going through a midlife crisis at age 28. I'm telling you, it's the truth. Does my husband know this, no, of course not. What he doesn't know, won't hurt him, especially if it makes our marriage stronger in the end.
Tuesday, November 28, 2006
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hmm, not sure how it will make your marriage stronger...men hate competition from what i've heard. like a kid in a candy store you are...lol.....
"Share With Me"
You're sharing with us. What do you want me to share with you.... my approval
I'm sorry Christy, you don't get mine and I speak from experience. Men are weak and easily tempted, especially married men. Throw yourself hard enough and one of them is bound to catch you. I'm the dumped wife from such a scenario. You're playing a dangerous game.
You may not actually sleep with any of these men you hanker after, but thoughts of infidelity are there and that is almost as good as...
Now a question. How would you feel if it was on the other foot... women throwing themselves at your husband and he's wondering whether to give into temptation, wondering about forbidden fruit... hmmmm
I'm interested, exactly how did you think this will make your marriage stronger?
If you think your going through a mid life crisis now...wait till you hit menopause! lol
Cirsises, mid-life or otherwise, are the times when we need to be the most careful. Marriages are very fragile things and when one partner is going through something major, it needs to be shared. Perhaps it would help to think about why you need such approval from men and then figure out a way to have your husband provide that?
Please be very cautious - and the best ally you can have in a mid-life crisis is a spiritual director. Maybe your priest can help you find one? Directors aren't judgmental - they meet you where they are, shine a light in the shadows and help figure out how God is working in our lives.
I flirt with men that are not inside my immediate social circle. I need to feel attractive. Butit ends there, a little bit of banter back and forth, but thats it.
I also flirt shamelessly with my horse shoer, that man is sooooo sexy. My husband knows this but he trusts me too. I think it all depends on the individuals.....
straying from being honest with your husband will not make your marriage stronger. It will weaken it.
If you love your husband, don't compare him to other men. Find the things he brings to you that make your life complete, and cherish those things. Money, power and charisma dont make up for real compassion and desire. If you don't have what you want, find a way to let your husband know what it is you DO want.
Don't decieve him or yourself. It wont serve you in the long run.
enjoy your fantasies, but keep them there. in fantasy land!
I maybe only 24 but because of my family I actually know more than any other single woman I know it is all about not crossing the line. Of coarse your going to look I am sure your husband does too. Nothing wrong with flirting either it keeps us feeling good. The important thing is to know the line and if you ever think you might have crossed it even a little be honest. From my experience if your honest nothing can hurt you. Make sure these men and all men know you wouldn't cross that line and then you don't have to worry about what to do when they cross it a little wisdom from a single 24 year old who has sent it all when it comes to marriage and realtionships.
Mid life crisis at the age of 28??? You are SO young!!! But what you do is your business. Whatever makes you happy. I do believe that you can spice things up with your hubbie though. Try some 'new games'...*wink* Or surprise him when he gets home with a nice little number and some dinner and wine. See what happens. You never know, maybe your hubbie will blow all these othere guys away. It doesn't hurt to try!
I love ya sweetie- and I think that we're all in some sort of tangled web. At least I could admit it!
Thanks for being so honest with us and sharing what you're going through. If you ever need to talk, feel free to email me, okay? It must be sort of stressful on you too, no?
{{big hugs to you}}
We are to be used and abused and for those who cannt take the beating arent men! Muahahahahahahahahaha(evil laff)
And what man doesnt like being treated like a peice of meat? I am my wife calls me eye candy to her coworkers all the time. I love it haha.
And midlife crisis can cum at anytime. I have had several and I am only 30 :-D
In the end it will all work out
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